How to Communicate with Children of All Ages About Boundaries, Bodies, and Sex

Conversations you need to have with your children: Boundaries, Bodies, and Sex.

Studies show that child sexual abuse is rooted in our environment. Conversations about sex and child safety should begin in the home and extend to school and the community. 

Sex and sexual abuse can be difficult subjects to bring up with children. We can talk to our children about sex and demonstrate healthy relationships in our own lives. Without this, children develop their own beliefs from their community, peers, and media.

It’s never too early to talk about boundaries. Although “sexual abuse” sounds like an adult topic, “body safety” is a subject that’s suitable for all ages. Body safety is talking about bodies, boundaries, and healthy sexual development. Conversations about body safety and sexual development must be ongoing to be effective.

But what should you talk about and how? 

  • Don't shy away from questions.

  • Keep the conversation developmentally appropriate. 

  • Acknowledge their curiosity. 

  • Engage in conversation so they feel comfortable coming to you with other questions and concerns later.

Read our tips for talking to children at different developmental stages:

Babies (0-1)

Toddlers (2-3)

Young Children (4-8)

Pre-Teens (9-12)

Teenagers (13-18)